I feel like we are all babies in grown-up bodies. We all still need love, affirmations, assurance, attention. Unfortunately, the more we grow, the less our speed of learning and adoption to change. Hence the need to plan ahead. The need to convince ourselves that what we already know, believe or do is not serving us and requires change.
I used to set yearly resolutions back then but stopped and begun winging it.
The New Year, 2020, I am back to setting resolutions. Becoming more intentional – because some of us thrive better under a set and defined path. If you are that, don’t shy away from goal-setting. Don’t blindly follow the lot that is quick to discourage you from planning. Remember we are all different and what works for others might not work for you.
Resolutions don’t have to be far-fetched or unachievable. I choose to see them as what we were taught in class are the specifications of a goal – SMART; specific, measurable, achievable, realistic and time-bound.
I believe resolutions setting should start with an analysis of the previous year(s); earlier set resolutions and life experiences – what you took from them all.
From there, open a new page in your diary. Now see the new year as a new start. Where you are allowed to leave all that baggage behind. Where you are allowed to dream again. The hashtag newyearnewme can be practically you. Let the naysayers feed off their hate and gossip as always. Or maybe they’ll have set some new resolutions to grow up a bit.
As I set my resolutions and pray and commit to achieving them, I’d want to help you set yours too. Think of it as goal setting, goals close to your heart and purpose.
- What do I like about myself?
- What I don’t like about myself?
- What I would want to change about myself?
- How do I relate with people?
- How do I behave in a social setting?
- How do I treat people who are lower than me?
- How do I perform under pressure?
- Do I wait until the last minute to complete tasks?
- What’s my relationship with my peers/colleagues/bosses?
- Do I feel the need to change careers and what steps am I taking?
- Time management.
- Social clubs.
Remember it’s personal – your struggle is another’s easiest thing to do and vice versa. Life is about personal growth. The smallest step matters. Your resolution can even be just one.
Now go find a quiet comfortable space. Phone on silent and glass of something by your side. Pour it all out in writing while being as real as possible with yourself. Get to work. Clap for yourself when you hit it and when you fail, dust yourself and get back to it. And know when something doesn’t serve you. Isn’t life just that, trial and error then results and learning from all that?
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