Nappily Ever After

by Monicah Wangari
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While writing this review, I had to google the meaning of nappily. Most of us are aware of happily ever after and happily never after but not nappily ever after. So, allow me to add a new word to your vocab yeah,

Nappily means fuzzy. Like a rugged carpet. Like African hair.

One evening while scrolling my netflix, my eyes fell on;

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Somehow I felt it call me, like I had to watch it. I like Black American movies. they always have a lesson. I heeded the call and here’s my review.

It is a September 2018 drama/romance film whose main cast is Violet Jones (real name; Sanaa Lathan). She plays the woman whose worth is based on her hair being straightened. It is like a second job to her. Her mother taught her that. That she is perfect only when her hair is straight.

One time when she was 10, she went with her straightened hair to a swimming place. Her mother told her not to swim because then her hair would afro up. But she did and the other kids laughed at her. Her mother, very embarrassed and angry at her took her home.

She grows up knowing that; that she has to have straight hair to be perfect.
And it translates to dressing perfect, talking perfect, having the perfect job, basically she has to be all perfect and that’s how she knows life.
And it all started with the hair.

Years later,
She is in the dating scene and has been seeing this superhottie Clint (real name; Ricky Whittle). Clint is Lincohn on the 100 series which i reviewed some time back. You can imagine my excitement.

Two years, they been dating and living together and its been smooth that you too will be expecting him to pop the question anytime. On her birthday, she is expecting him to propose yeah, just like you and me. Especially since she’d seen a tiny wrapped package, like the ones that carry rings in his closet.

Birthday dinner, she gets an unpleasant surprise. I’ll leave that for you to find out as you watch.

Trouble starts and she starts breaking down bit by bit and discovering herself as a beautiful woman who is not defined by her hair being perfect or having the perfect job or tagging along with a man who has no plans of committing to her.

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In her turmoil, she meets someone great who has a beautiful daughter who loves her every bit including her rugged natural hair. And boy does she embrace her natural hair perfectly. And it rubs off on Violet Jones.

I have to say, it is one of the best movie for a woman dealing with self esteem issues based on looks. Because it teaches you to choose yourself first before others. The way she executes the struggle we women go through to look perfect is heartfelt.

I commend companies like Marini Naturals who tell women how to shine with their natural hair.

I commend women who know their worth is more than just their looks.

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That beauty is in the eyes of the beholder and that beholder is you.


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Mark September 29, 2018 - 12:00 pm

Fantastic!!! Keep it up… I can’t wait to watch the movie…

Monicah Wangari September 29, 2018 - 12:36 pm

Hey Mark, thanks and enjoy 😀

Mwalugha Bura October 1, 2018 - 3:56 pm

It has a very good theme! A must watch! Thanks for the insights

Monicah Wangari October 1, 2018 - 4:34 pm

Hey Bura, thank you and enjoy

Jay October 2, 2018 - 1:24 pm

I should start with the 100 first…

Monicah Wangari October 2, 2018 - 1:28 pm

Good call Jay

I Shaved My Hair After 20 Years - September 30, 2020 - 11:28 am

[…] I don’t know where my hair journey leads but am open to anything. If you are hesitant to make that hair move, take your time and when ready, go for it and embrace it. Just like Violet Jones in the movie nappily ever after. […]


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